Update from Kia
Hello,
A couple of weeks ago, I watched a TikTok video that asked, “How many of us know our parents’ grandparents’ names?” – the answer likely being very few.
The point of the question really screwed with me. If we’ll all be more or less forgotten in three generations’ time, what is the point of trying to leave a mark?
Working hard has always been my default setting. I’ve always wanted to achieve; to strive, to reach, to accomplish. It’s partly why I’ve written five novels even though there are far easier (and certainly more lucrative) ways to spend my time. Knowing that my books will be in the British Library, literally altering space, long after I’m gone feels like a good way to leave a legacy. Other people pursue legacy in different ways: some have children, some become activists to make lasting change, some are doctors or pastors or good samaritans.
But what if the point of life is not to think big (or ‘optimise for your deathbed’ as one of my Silicon Valley friends put it), but to get the most pleasure out of each small day?
This idea is not new of course. Anyone who’s watched Dead Poets Society will have been induced to carpe diem, but to me seize the day has always meant to do the most you can with your day to improve your life in the long term. I’m coming to realise that seizing the day doesn’t mean spending hours writing at my desk (for legacy!) but to go for a walk, breathe fresh air, eat good food with friends, laugh with family, maybe make the day a little better for someone else. We all need to pay our bills, of course, but most people I know work harder than they have to because legacy! What if we just got off the treadmill?
I know this sounds twee, and maybe it’s a sign of a midlife crisis, or maybe it’s just melancholy brought on by my latest round of edits (which happen to coincide with the hottest week of the year 😢), but I’m not embarrassed to be re-evaluating what’s important to me. I don’t think I’ll figure it out any time soon, but I’m working on it.
Until next time.
Kia x
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Editor’s choice
The book I’m most excited about…
We've all had our share of mould, dodgy landlords and awkward house shares. But Kieran Yates has had more than most: by the age of twenty-five she'd lived in twenty different houses across the country.
In her coming-of-age memoir, she charts the heartbreaks and joys of a life spent searching for home. Sparkling with warmth and wit, this is a story of finding beauty in our interiors, friendships in cramped flats, and home even in the most fragile circumstances. All the Houses I’ve Ever Lived In is at once a rallying cry for change and a love letter to home in all its forms.
All the Houses I’ve Ever Lived In was a previous editor’s choice and is now out in paperback. Order it from Amazon, Waterstones or your local independent bookshop.
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