Update from Kia
Hello,
Last year, I did something that surprised some of my friends: I signed up for twerk classes. I’ve always been relatively conservative in public thanks to my religious upbringing. You won’t find me in a bikini on Instagram or often showing cleavage. In pictures, I smile rather than smoulder and am rarely overtly sexual. But suddenly I’m posting clips of me twerking. What’s that about?
At first, I didn’t mention the classes on social media, but as the weeks went on, my perspective evolved. My twerk classes are the first time I’ve ever felt safe being overtly sexual in a public space; not just physically safe but safe from the judgment that coloured so much of my youth. In class, the sexier you are, the better. Sexiness is something to embrace and celebrate. Here, your body – and what it can do – is not a source of shame.
I’ve invited friends to come along and, in doing so, have realised just how many of us are queasy about overt sexuality. “Oh, god, I couldn’t,” “I’d be up for a dance class but not twerking,” “Twerking is not for me” are all things that friends have said to me.
I’m glad that the class has changed my perspective. More importantly, I’m glad that it’s shown me that I can change. At the age of 42, I can decide that certain antediluvian ideas of how a woman should behave don’t suit me. I can shake them off (in this case, literally) and decide to have fun instead – as can we all.
Until next time.
Kia x
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